Does anyone (incontinent) get a warning before you wet or soiling? (2025)

It varies. During the day I might get some warning. But if suppressed, I'll usually get short notice of only seconds later on- often 5 minutes later. If I am at a stadium, I just wear a diaper because I can't safely get to the washroom on time.

F-IC is much more insidious. I might feel rumblings 5-10 minutes in advance of trouble. But some of those turn out to be nothing. When I can, I sit down somewhere to quiet things down. But while at a grocery store, I can only clench and hope for the best. Walking aggravates it, so clenching is often done standing in place. At that point, I usually know about 5-10 minutes ahead that that the battle is likely lost.

Generally, no. I don’t feel an urge to wet if it’s a small to medium amount, I just feel the warmth of urine spread across my diaper area. I sometimes feel an urge if it’s a large amount but I can’t do anything to hold my bladder and stop the accident. Even then, I start peeing a few second after I sense the fullness in my bladder.
I also get bladder spasms sometimes and those are just straight up uncomfortable. Then I can’t exactly feel the urine come out but it usually means my bladder is trying to empty but can’t or actually doesn’t need to empty.

For bowels it’s a bit different. I often feel stomach cramps which is a sign I’m about to have a bm, but I don’t have the control to stop the bm from happening. On an average day I feel cramps only seconds before my bowels move.
Usually I do feel a normal to large sized bm as long as it’s mostly solid. It REALLY sucks to feel a bm happening but know I can’t stop it, so when I get cramps out in public I try to relocate to somewhere I can be alone or start to pack up and go home. If it’s very soft or small, I sometimes I don’t even know I had a bm until I change or some air escapes my adult diaper and I start to smell myself.
Then there’s times where I think I’m super gassy and it turns out I was actually having small bm accidents the whole time- that’s super stressful because on days like that my adult diaper generally feels okay… but then suddenly I’m hit with a really horrible smell and it usually takes me a second to realize it’s coming from my adult diaper.

LillySillyGoose said:

I sometimes feel an urge if it’s a large amount but I can’t do anything to hold my bladder and stop the accident. I often feel stomach cramps which is a sign I’m about to have a bm, but I don’t have the control to stop the bm from happening.

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Feel an urge is a warning. At first I'll get a little urge and within a couple of minutes it grows to a "red alert." I guess I should be glad that at least I notice the sensation. Typically I'm a heavy wetter. I've never used pull-ups just because of that. I'm well aware how heavy my diaper will get. I just know that it's time to change.

I rarely get cramps but I do feel the urge. Sometimes I get almost 5 minutes but most of the time it's fairly fast. Probably 2 or 3 minutes. The urgency grows strong but what good is the warning? Nothing really helps. I've been IC for so long that I don't even try to stop one. The only good thing is that most of my BM's happen in the morning or when I'm sleeping. Better than having one during the day.

Urgency is the warning. Does it help me? Not really but better than getting a surprise.

Dual IC:

Generally I’ll get a notice, but it’s pretty short. With lots of PT I’ve gotten up to 2-4 minutes. But sometimes it just happens. I can feel it, but there isn’t a dang thing I can do about it. The other thing, is I can rarely tell between gas/solid/liquid. Much like a casino, the house always come out on top.

I’m bladder and bowel urge IC. For years, even when I was a kid, I would get about 3 to 5 min warning, sometimes much less with my bowels. I used to bathroom map everywhere I went. Sometimes I would make it, sometimes I wouldn’t.

A little over 21 years ago (~mid 30’s), my urinary warning dropped to 0-2 seconds. Most of the time it’s instantaneous, meaning by the time I feel it, I’m already peeing. I have noticed that if I’m dehydrated I get a little more warning because my bladder is filling very slowly. That has also been shown to be the case during urodynamics testing.

My bowel control has gotten worse too due to a lifelong battle with IBS. Over the years, I have gotten tired of being mad at my body. Thank God for being able to afford quality diapers.

I don’t get any urges at night and haven’t had a dry one in many years. I get up to a couple of minutes after getting a pee urge.

Bowel accidents happen infrequently and when they do usually happen with no warning. I haven’t felt them happen when I’ve been busy doing something or asleep but have felt a hot sensation in my stomach and felt myself fill my diaper when sitting idle.

Jorelaxed said:

I do not get any warning at all when I'm about to leak or wet, just suddenly start going.

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Yes, most of the time that is me out and about doing errands or going to appointments when all of a sudden I just start leaking into my diaper or pull on. I don't get any warning at night as I am a heavy sleeper. I just wake up in the mornig with a very full diaper.